I was watching old Sex and The City episodes last night and i got the perfect first post for this blog. It seems I have too many blogs lately, but when my writer's block fell through I seem to have too many diverse topics to talk about that I did not want to mix them up.
Watching those epidodes brought back that feeling i had when i would take six trips to the bathroom on Friday nights just to catch a glimpse of what i thought I wanted to grow up into. No. Not the blatant display of carnal enjoyment, although that did open up my eyes a little bit.
I'm talking about years of entertainment laced with what I do believe was a succesfull guide that has more to do with friendships than sex in the big apple. Four friends, who have known each other since the length of our skirts was longer than the size of our heels and underwear actually covered the essentials.
In this age and time, it seems almost comical that the tv industries want us to believe that friendships can last through the end of a Millenium and bad hair, through cancer and liposuction and the re-invention of MC Hammer pants. Don't act so surprised, i see you harem pants, for what you really are.
And I know we all want that perfect structure of stable relationships. Structures you can rely on in the most bizzare of circumstances and the most drunken of nights.
But when and where do we find and make these friendships? How do we know friendships are going to weather all the blizzards and heat of the errors man tends to make?
In preschool where the intensity of a friendship was determined by who you shared your cookies with, in highschool where bestfriends turn into arch enemies over night, in college where friendships are most likely cemented by holding that random classmate's hair as they empty their entire meal at that house at that party you were told your crush was going to be in attendance in all their fine ass glory and in the 'real' world where you just might make a friend whilst sharing a cigarette during that seminar you can't really be half arsed about.
If you were asked how many people you had declared to be your 'best friend forever' and are still your best friends now, good on you if all of them are still in your life.
Friendships that last forever are friendships that do not impose. That because we are bestfriends I expect you to drop everything for me and i will take your tantrums and turn them into vows of forever afters. I believe that you can make bestfriends last forever, i want to talk to my 'college best friends' ten years from now, when we would definately have new bestfriends and new lives and be able to mend those rickety old pieces of wood that years of phonecalls and postcards can't seem to hold up. But if the rift is too deep, and there is not enough wood to build back that bridge, it will be okay because you have a yatch now, or a rowing boat...or better yet...a bridge made out of adamantium.
But you have to realise that people change, relationships change and feelings change.
There is reason perhaps as to why you introduce your high school bestie as 'my highschool bestie' and not 'my bestie'. You might not talk for months, years even. You will make new friends, but when you do bump into each other at a mutual friend's wedding, lets not point fingers at who lost touch first. Its not burning bridges if you can fly over the ravine darlings. Plus wooden bridges are hard to cross over in these Jimmy Choos.
Xoxo
so true..mi amigo :-) :-)
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